Non-Fatal Attraction

Normally I don't change names to protect no one's identity... but in this case, I feel it might be necessary. PP was telling me about this new girl he has been dating and was really into... Apparently, he was just really into her, but had never been INTO her =)

PP says (7:33 PM):
its real nice with her and i feel she can make me good

bree says (7:33 PM):
then go for it! it's rare to find someone u really like n likes u too

PP says (7:34 PM):
thing is.... there's no sexual angle to her

bree says (7:35 PM):
why not? not the sexual kind?

PP says (7:47 PM):
as in... you don't have to be the sexual kind
but most girls....you can see a sexual angle in them
like...i can see a sexual angle in you
but my girl....no

bree says (7:52 PM):
she's not very sexual i think
haha but then neither am i

PP says (7:52 PM):
its not about that
its sexual angle

bree says (7:53 PM):
what do you mean by a sexual angle

PP says (7:53 PM):
its like when a guy looks at a girl....and sees an angle in her

bree says (7:53 PM):
i've always been sexually attracted to men i love
i dont understand how you can really like someone and not be attracted to them

PP says (7:53 PM):
k....forget it
my theories are lost on you
like someone....attracted to someone doesn't always mean you wanna fuck them
sad but true

Sad, I agree. But... true? It is possible to be attracted to someone and really like them - but not be sexually attracted to the person? And I'm not talking platonic love, or parental love, but like in a "she's my girlfriend", "we're dating, and I really like her" kind of way.

As much as I'd hate to admit, most attractions (opposite sex) are propelled by sexual desires - looks, figure, pheromones, viagra. That is why women buy sexy lingerie, and men buy cologne endorsed by sexy male models.

At the risk of sounding superficial with all these Freudian theories finding their way onto my blog, I must say I do believe in true love. And in true love, perhaps there isn't room for sexual desires. It's love-making of a purer, deeper connection.

Then, is the physical act of love THAT important? Could we love emotionally, spiritually and just not physically? Or is love so evasive and abstract that modern men (and women) have evolved to seek the physical act of love-making as a validation of the existance of love?

After all...

bree says (8:08 PM):
many married couples don't have sex
Roy says (8:09 PM):
then it's companionship

Sad... but true?